| HOWDY FOLKS
Have been writing newsletters for about 10 years or longer. I like to write simple things that will help you solve problems. I am going to do a re-run on some of them because there are a lot of you that missed the ones written a few years ago.
This month I am sharing a technique that can help you get what you want without arguing with people.
I call it ‘having a mental conversation’ with people before having a verbal conversation with them.
Here is how.
If this is someone you have seen remember what they look like with all details, size, shade of skin, color of eyes and hair, tone of voice. If you have shook hands with them, remember the feel of the handshake. Make this as vivid as possible.
Then, mentally carry on a conversation with them about what you want. Do not try to take advantage of them but present your mental conversation in a manner that would also be to their benefit.
Imagine them nodding their head in agreement with you. Then imagine the final result.
Example. When I was a bricklayer, I would sometimes do work for people without discussing the cost first. On one job, I was simply asked to do some work and agreed, no price was discussed.
I worked really fast and completed the job in less time than was expected. The man I was working for told me to come back on Friday and he would pay me.
If I had been paid an hourly wage, the cost would have been about $200. If I had taken the job as a contract, the cost would have been over $500.
That evening, I got relaxed ~~to lower my brain to the Alpha frequency, which adds power to my thoughts. Then I remembered what the man looked like with all details.
In my mental conversation with him, I explained that $500 was fair price and if he could afford it, I would appreciate him paying me $500. Then I imagined him handing me five $100 bills.
On Friday, I went to get my money and he asked, ‘How much do I owe you.” and I replied, ‘Just pay me what you think it is worth.”
He handed me five $100 bills.
Have also used this method to settle insurance claims. It can be used anytime there is a potential conflict.
Wishing you success
Raymon
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