I have four friends tell me that I expect too much of them. This makes me laugh because I expect them to be exactly as they are… imperfect humans. I realize that they have an expectation that they must be at their best when they are around me. I am not sure where that expectation came from. Perhaps it is a carry-over from their child hood.
These inaccurate expectations have caused our friendship to slip sideways. They feel it is too much pressure. Whether the expectation is real or not, it does cause problems. I believe that we all have expectations of people, of work, of sporting events, of family dinners, and of our family. Our expectations come from the way we see our perfect world, without any thought to the truism that perfection does not exist. In other words, we create our own reality with our expectations and then we are sad when the reality does not happen.
Moving forward, are you able to give up or at least cut back on your expectations?
AUTHOR – Judith has been writing spiritual and technical blogs for the last thirteen years. She is a non-traditional shaman who has studied with shaman teachers from different lineages. As well, she has studied and uses Dowsing, Body Talk, EFT, Reiki, Quantum Touch, Hypnotherapy, Angel Karma Techniques, Angel Therapy, and has taught Star Talker Training classes. She is a seer and medium.